Stephanie, I read your post about what to do when your bf doesn’t text you bk and thought I’d ask for advice.
I’ve only been officially with my bf now since July. When we first started talking I didn’t even realize that he liked me until he flat out said it and I turned him down twice before I finally gave in and decided to give him a chance. We soon realized that we both liked each other a lot and things went well. This happened at the end of last school yr and we talked all summer, everyday and almost all day. We spent almost every wknd together and some weekdays. At first the only thing we had trouble with was other ppl not approving of our relationship because of jealousy and the whole racial thing (I don’t have a problem with us being different races and neither does he but some of my friends do).
About a few wks before xmas break, he stopped asking me to come over on the wknds and we hardly talked at all. He’s not much of a talker on the phone so we mainly texted but he would call sometimes and never minded when I would call. Anyway, he started by only texted me very late at night, like 11pm then midnight and he even waited until 2:30am once.
Then, he would go days without talking to me and I just assumed he was busy because he likes to procrastinate and leave all of his school work to do until the last minute. When I questioned him about it, it turned out that I was right, he said he had been studying all night and had a lot of projects to do.
I acted like it didn’t bother me, but apparently he could tell something was wrong from the way I was texting him. He would constantly ask me what was wrong. I finally decided to tell him that I didn’t like how late he was texting me, how I never saw him anymore and how he hadn’t texted me for a few days in a row without any explanation.
All he had to say was “sorry I’ve been shitty lately” with a sad face. I told him it was ok, thinking that things would get better. I was wrong…he started texting me a little earlier, like around 9 or 10pm and then it was back to midnight. I figured, the last wk before we went home for break, that we would at least see each other once, but as the wk went on I soon realized that it didn’t look like I was going to see him.
He used to always tell me how much he missed me and wanted to see me after only going a couple days apart. It’s been wks since we’ve seen each other and he doesn’t even seem to care. He talked to me like I was supposed to be ok with not seeing him and like nothing was wrong. I have been feeling like something was wrong for a while now and don’t know if I’m just paranoid or what.
It’s not normal for him to go this long without talking to me. I texted him once last night but he didn’t respond. 🙁
Okay hun listen, I absolutely know what you’re talking about and here’s my take on it.
This is a classic example of a guy not getting bored, but…. getting complacent. Ever heard of the term familiarity breeds contempt? You have quickly became a chore to him. Please do not become offended because it is NOT about you, your essence or your personality. He liked these things when he asked you out. And you are still you, provided you don’t lose yourself which is exactly what you’re doing.
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